K is Missed (3rd Anniversary)

 

When this post goes live it will be the 3rd anniversary of my roommate's murder. This year has been filled with growth, pain, grief, and change. For years (two), I have been saying how I would post about what happened that night, but I will not be posting on the blog. I am honored and thrilled to say my essay on the topic was chosen for publication to showcase minority students' lives. I am very excited about this step and was not sure I would be picked but went for it anyway. I feel like this is a reflection of how my roommate viewed me. He always saw me as the one who would go out and get it. I wanted to mark this day by stating my roommate used to tell me, " I could see you being a doctor." I find that so funny now because I always laughed when he said that, and here I am now going after a Ph.D. 

K and I took Noah to the movies for the first time. We had a lot of fun but Noah was literally climbing over chairs and making so much noise. 

K is Missed (3rd Anniversary)

Tuesday, October 27, 2020

Generational Trauma: Healing Your Wounds

The last few posts have looked at what generational trauma is and what it looks like, this post is going to look at healing within yourself. I heard this quote about intergenerational trauma that I need to share.

 The trauma of the grandmother is the mental illness of the granddaughter.

That is such a powerful quote.  You are likely a parent and will likely become a grandparent. What changes you do or don't make now will matter.  Don't just settle with the idea that you are destined to live with pain. 

Generational Trauma: Healing Your Wounds

Sunday, October 25, 2020

Generational Trauma: What Does it Look Like?

Last week I introduced what generational trauma is and how it is passed from generation to generation. This week I wanted to give a better idea of how generational trauma shows up in families, I will provide some examples of some of the trauma I have seen or experienced that has impacted two or three generations. 

Generational Trauma: What Does it Look Like?

Sunday, August 30, 2020

Generational Trauma: What is it?

Generational trauma is also known as intergenerational trauma and it is becoming a thing of conversations, and I am happy about it. That means we are thinking and talking about what trauma is and how it affects families. This is going to be a mini-series and will be broken up into several posts. This post will define generational trauma and two ways trauma is passed from one generation to the next. 

Generational Trauma: What is it?

Sunday, August 23, 2020

Pyramid of Self-Care

I have noticed in my privet sessions that many women seeking to add self-care to their daily lives think of an activity that others can see, i.e., getting your nails done. However, the most beneficial forms of self-care are not something people can always see but something you can feel. I use the pyramid of self-care to help my clients understand and prioritize what actions they may need to take to better themselves and start their self-care journey. The best way to think of root self-care and surface self-care is that surface-self-care is used to support root self-care.

Pyramid of Self-Care

Sunday, August 9, 2020